Persons are confused over the idea of an “apology dinner” after a Reddit person took to the platform to share an anecdote in regards to the meal they and their household deliberate for one.
This week, a Reddit person by the identify of @Medium_Cook7987, uploaded a put up to the subreddit Am I the A**gap? the place they requested whether or not they had executed the improper factor by arranging for his or her sister’s “apology dinner” to be a potluck – with out ever explaining what an apology dinner was.
Within the put up, which has since been eliminated however shared on Twitter, the person explains that their mom determined to host an apology dinner for his or her older sister, and had requested them to be accountable for the meals.
Nonetheless, once they realised that it was their prolonged household attending in addition to their instant household, they determined to make the dinner potluck, which they defined means “all of the grownup visitors carry a dish, and all of the dishes are shared”.
“After all I by no means requested my sister to carry any meals as a result of she was the visitor of honour,” they continued. “Effectively, everybody came visiting and we’re all excited to take heed to the apology and eat.”
However, in accordance with the poster, when their sister arrived, she was offended that they had been “serving pot luck for her particular dinner”.
“My sister yelled at me that the Apology Meal ought to be ready (or at the least paid for) by the apologiser (my mother) to be able to present correct atonement,” they continued, earlier than concluding the put up asking whether or not they had been within the improper for making the dinner a potluck.
On Twitter, the place the put up has been appreciated greater than 7,000 instances, it has confounded readers, with many questioning what precisely an apology dinner is.
“Are folks making apology dinners a factor now? What even is it? Accepting an apology is personal, takes time and is mostly not executed by insisting on an enormous parade however perhaps that’s simply me,” one particular person tweeted.
One other stated: “Is that this a factor?? Am I the one one who’s by no means heard of somebody arranging an apology dinner earlier than???? Additionally INFO: what was mother apologising FOR???”
“So can anybody please enlighten me on what the f*** an ‘Apology Dinner’ is??” another person requested.
Others identified the irony of the poster taking the time to clarify what a potluck is, however not what an apology dinner is.
“Why does OP [original poster] clarify what a potluck is however not clarify what an ‘apology dinner’ is and preserve repeating it prefer it’s a well-known cultural establishment relatable to most individuals,” one particular person requested, whereas one other wrote: “I don’t want you to clarify potlucks to me, I want you to clarify apology dinners. Is that this some American factor I’ve by no means heard of??”
Though the poster by no means defined what their mom needed to publicly apologise for, they did reply to 1 confused touch upon Reddit asking what an apology dinner was, responding: “It’s the place somebody apologises to a different particular person in entrance of the entire household.”
As for why one would host an apology dinner to start with, the Reddit person stated within the feedback that they are often helpful as a result of it ensures that the one apologising is being honest.
“The factor is that when most individuals apologise, they don’t actually imply it that a lot. So it’s good to have a buddy or member of the family there to verify the apology is honest, and the apologiser ‘will get it’. In any other case, they might say one thing like, ‘Sorry you took it the improper manner,’” they wrote, to extra confusion.
In a follow-up put up, the Reddit person additionally clarified that it’s not a “occasion,” however a dinner, and that the “purpose for a dinner is to allow them to not solely apologise, however hash issues out”.
“It’s more durable to comb issues beneath the rug, or rush by the apology when you recognize there’s a complete meal to be eaten,” they added.
Whereas most individuals had been nonetheless confused, others cherished the concept of a drawn-out public apology, with one particular person tweeting: “Can I get an invitation to the following one it looks like your loved ones loves drama as a lot as I do.”